Start of Nothing Special Podcast
Imagine a space where men can openly express their thoughts, share their experiences, and support one another. Envision candid discussions where vulnerability is considered a strength, and each shared story provides insight and encouragement to others.
Welcome to my channel, Start of Nothing Special (SONS). My name is David, and I am pleased to introduce you to this new platform created for men from all walks of life to come together and discuss their personal journeys.
Join me as I lay the groundwork for a platform that goes beyond being just a channel—it is a movement. Tune in as I articulate my vision and invite you to join us on this collective journey towards self-improvement. Through open dialogues and shared life lessons, we aim to build a community rooted in mutual growth and understanding.
Welcome to the beginning of something truly significant.
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Start of Nothing Special Podcast
Healing Journeys and Emotional Resilience
What if your self-worth was entirely self-defined? Join me as I share a deeply personal journey of self-discovery, where I recount how the sacrifices of my mother and the challenges of racial discrimination shaped my understanding of personal value. Through a candid reflection on past relationships, including a significant lesson from a failed friendship, we explore the critical importance of not letting others dictate your worth. The episode emphasizes the power of inner strength, staying true to core values, and learning to define oneself amidst adversity.
Transitioning to the turbulent path of healing, I open up about the emotional roller coaster that comes with recovery. One week, I’m feeling on top of the world, and the next, I’m hitting rock bottom. But through it all, the unwavering support from loved ones—whether through a simple phone call, a shared ice cream cone, or a music-filled car ride—has been my anchor. Trust, especially, has been a significant hurdle, and I discuss the gradual process of learning to trust both new faces and familiar ones again. Despite the ups and downs, this chapter of my journey offers a hopeful message about the transformative power of love and support in the healing process.
If you never try, you will never know
I've been pacing back and forth trying to come up with a creative way to start this or to get into this, but I realized that it's not so much about creativity, it's just what I have to say. Earlier, I've been doing a lot of reflecting, analyzing, assessing my life and different choices I have made and different rooms I've walked into. I've gone to play to laws I never thought I would go. I've allowed people to dictate to me who I am and I've accepted it. It's not just that they told me who they think I am. I said, oh, that's who you think I am, and I've accepted it. It's not just that they told me who they think I am. I said, oh, that's who you think I am. Okay, I accept it. Which is quite crazy because, when I think about it, these people have not walked into the rooms I've walked into. These people have not fought the battles that I've fought. These people have not faced the demons I've faced. From a young age, all I've known is fight, defend, defend.
Speaker 1:Because of the colour of my skin, I've always had to start behind everyone. I don't mean exclusively just me, I mean anyone out there that unfortunately shares the same skin colour as me. We've had to start from the very bottom to work our way up. Growing up, my mum did everything she could for us. She sacrificed, she struggled, she fought, she defended anything she could just to make sure that we were never in want. So her sacrifice. I have to show respect to that. So the fact that I allowed and I've accepted what people are telling me who they think I am is a disrespect to her and all the work she's done. Who they think I am is a disrespect to her and all the work she's done.
Speaker 1:It's funny I come across as confident and people see me and think, oh yeah, he's put together well and he's confident. And for the most part I am. But I've always been of the belief that looks isn't everything. Presentation is the start For me. That's where I start and then I work on the inside, what's inside me. So I may look presentable, but I work hard on my personality, work hard on who I am, my core values. So that's why, when I meet people, a lot of times I've not cared about their aesthetics. I've not cared so much about what they look like, I've just been. Okay, you look this way. Well, let's see what your vibe is, see what your energy is.
Speaker 1:My recent relationship was someone that I'd known a friendship actually I'd had for seven years and I tried to control it and try to do what David does and try to control every part of it and it ended up blowing up in my face. A friendship of seven years turned out to be one of the biggest lessons I've ever learned. A friendship of seven years has taught me more than my 30 years of being on this earth. I trusted someone. I allowed them into my, around, my family, into my heart, and now I'm battling this person as an enemy. This person is treating me like as an enemy. This person is treating me like an enemy. This person is. I allowed this person to destroy me emotionally, mentally.
Speaker 1:They said some hurtful, hurtful, disgusting things. They told me not worth this, not worth that. It told me things I didn't like about me. Not once did I ever utter words of what I don't like about them, because, regardless of how angry I go, regardless of whatever situation, there's always a line. I think there's always a line where people go, no matter what. There's a line of what I wouldn't do or how far I wouldn't go.
Speaker 1:I'm supposed to give this relevance. I think the reason I'm recording this is just to say to all you guys and girls out there. Recording this is just to say to all you guys and girls out there your self-worth is not dependent on someone else. It's what you think you are. It's who you think you are and, more importantly, it's what work you do when you're alone, because a lot of these people will do a lot. When people are around and when no one's around, you get to really see who they are and what they're like. I urge you to keep working on yourself. Make sure who you are and who you say you are is actually who you are and it's not just words, even in the hard times, that you do what's right for you or you do the right thing.
Speaker 1:It is hard, and part of this healing journey is difficult Because it's not an upward slope, it is a roller coaster. It's up, down, up down. A lot of weeks I feel like I'm just plummeting to the earth and then, at some weeks, I just feel like the sky is going to stop me. This week has been hard, but I have the support of a lot of people in my life, a lot of people that want to see me succeed, a lot of people that genuinely love me and are there for me, a phone call away, just a phone call away. A lot of times I feel alone, but just knowing I've got people out there that are messaging me, calling me hey, you're okay, david, do you need me to get on the phone? Do you need me to drive to you? Hey, let's go for ice creams, let's go for a walk. I'll come pick you up and we'll just listen to music in the car. I'm so thankful and appreciative to everyone out there that's been showing me love and support.
Speaker 1:Healing is not a one-way street, I think. For me, where I am right now, what I'm trying to figure out is trust. I'm finding myself struggling with that to trust the next person that comes into my life, or to trust anyone in my life, or to trust people. You know I trust them when they show love. When someone says something to me, it's very hard to take them for what they've said. Hope you guys have a good day. Just wanted to come on here and talk and load, because the fight's running in my head all the time. So this is helpful to just have like a digital library.
