Start of Nothing Special Podcast
Imagine a space where men can openly express their thoughts, share their experiences, and support one another. Envision candid discussions where vulnerability is considered a strength, and each shared story provides insight and encouragement to others.
Welcome to my channel, Start of Nothing Special (SONS). My name is David, and I am pleased to introduce you to this new platform created for men from all walks of life to come together and discuss their personal journeys.
Join me as I lay the groundwork for a platform that goes beyond being just a channel—it is a movement. Tune in as I articulate my vision and invite you to join us on this collective journey towards self-improvement. Through open dialogues and shared life lessons, we aim to build a community rooted in mutual growth and understanding.
Welcome to the beginning of something truly significant.
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Start of Nothing Special Podcast
The Responsibility of Friendship and Growth
Why do we so often let our friends off the hook when they misstep? This episode tackles the hard-hitting truth about male accountability in friendships and why holding each other to higher standards is crucial. Sharing personal stories and candid reflections, we delve deep into how blind loyalty among men can perpetuate harmful behaviors like cheating, dishonesty, and even abuse. It's time to challenge the status quo and redefine what it means to truly be a friend.
Listen as we unpack the necessity for men to confront their friends' destructive habits—whether it's mistreating women, gambling, or other addictions. We emphasize that true friendship involves more than just standing by each other; it’s about pushing one another towards growth and betterment. Reflect on your own social circles and discover why fostering a culture of mutual respect and accountability can lead to stronger, healthier relationships. This is a wake-up call and a powerful conversation that aims to inspire positive change.
If you never try, you will never know
I've got a thought. It's been well, actually two thoughts that's been running in my mind a lot recently, and one of those is the idea of challenging each other as males. Now, we all have excuses that we make for our male friends. You know, that's just David, that's just John, that's just Ben. But I've just noticed a few things that's been happening, like, thankfully for me, I've made a lot of mistakes, which I'm happy about, like because I can only learn by making mistakes. But thankfully for me, I've got good friends in my life that will challenge me and will say david, what the fuck are you doing? Cut it out, stop it.
Speaker 1:Now I've done like I said, I'm just not a bragging thing, but I've done a lot of wrongdoings and hurt a few people, unintentionally or intentionally. Now, in some of those examples, I've basically, you know, cheated. I've sometimes not given the full story or given the full truth. I haven't necessarily lied, but I've just sort of like I'm very good at telling you something without telling you everything. You know, controlling the narrative in a sense, which is not something I'm proud of, but I'm just like, growing up as a man, you do things like that. Now, basically, to go back to the topic it's. I've had friends that have said, david, hey, I don't agree with what you did there, what you didn't do, and things like that. I'm thankful I have that, but I've noticed that a lot of guys these days don't have that in their friend group. They don't have friends that will actually call them out. I've seen some guys treat their women really poorly, hit their women like assault, scream, yell, treat their women really poorly and their friends don't say anything. Their friends don't say, hey, mate, like what you're doing is fucked up, it's not right, like, call me, like I'm don't want to be associated with you if you're um privately messaging a woman or if you're privately, you know, doing the dirty to your woman, sort of thing. That that idea of challenging each other as men to be better, um, or your man has a, your friend has a um gambling problem, um, we don't call him out and say, mate, like, hey, let me help you, let me talk, let's, let's find another way. Or has a, you know, whatever he, he may have, like we don't really challenge each other, we don't call each other as men. So that sort of thing has gone out of respect. We are happy to stand by males and like, defend them, but when it comes to actually challenging them, say no, that's not right, we don't do that. We always fall short and I'd like to challenge every guy out there that remember your friendship is very important.
Speaker 1:The people you hang out with, the people you spend time with, are a reflection of who you are, what you think of, what you you think of yourself, who you associate with. If you're associated with a guy, that's just a poor guy, that's just beating on his wife and you know about it. Or you see signs and you don't do anything about it. That's fucked up, that's messed up. Call your friends out, say, hey, stop doing that. Hey, you've got a good woman there. Stop sneaking around her back, stop messaging other women. Um, stop, um stealing, stop lying, stop that uh, gambling or you know whatever. You're addicted to. Things like that.
Speaker 1:Like I would say, challenge each other. And that, as males, that's something I have just noticed. You know a lot of guys. Just, we don't challenge each other, we don't call each other, we defend each other. You know which is. I can understand the, the misguided, misguided loyalty, but I think in this day and age, with all the the rates of like, you know um, you know partners, you know males, you know killing women and things like that. I think it all stems to you know what the guys are, um, you know has around him, what sort of challenges, what sort of experience he has around him, you know who are the men in his life is saying, hey, if you touch that woman, I'm gonna beat your ass. Like, don't touch that woman, don't lift your hand with a woman. If you're angry, go to the gym and fucking hit a punching bag or something. We don't call each other out at all. That's one.
Speaker 1:The other is the idea of racism, and this is a really really, really confusing and tricky. I feel like a lot of us think that racism is a guy driving in a car yelling out really hurtful, disgusting things, saying go back to where you came from or get out of here black, so-and-so. But I would challenge it and say, actually it's also being part of the system, knowing the system and not doing anything about it. For example, if you see someone of a minority getting attacked, getting um abused, assaulted, and you do nothing about it, that's part of the problem. You can't. I don't think that's ever okay.
Speaker 1:You know, if you know that um, there is a um establishment that has a very, very negative prejudice towards you know, a certain group of people. When you put that person in that position, that's racism, you know. That's not okay. If you see someone being treated differently for their skin color, that's racism, you know. So if you know that, if you put me in this, in a scenario, um, where someone of my complexion would be worse off, and you do nothing about it, that's racism. That's not being part of the solution. So going oh, I only you know I don't call black people out, I don't't insult them. That's not always the case.
Speaker 1:Like, you've got to also challenge each other. You've got to also say, hey, that's not right, I'm not going to be part of the system. Just shutting up isn't good enough anymore. You know, like, growing up now I'm just noticing lots of people that are good quality people, considered my friends, but a lot of them struggle with this idea of, oh, I'm a good person. I would never say that to anybody of any color, but they'd sit there and they'll put you in a position where they know that, hey, as a black man, I'm going to be held at a higher standard, as opposed to, say, a young white guy, sort of thing anyway. Fruitful thought. I just thought about it. I just wanted to come here and say, hey, challenge your friends to be better. And racism isn't just doing something, it's also sitting by and watching it. Go, watching it happen, basically.
