Start of Nothing Special Podcast
Imagine a space where men can openly express their thoughts, share their experiences, and support one another. Envision candid discussions where vulnerability is considered a strength, and each shared story provides insight and encouragement to others.
Welcome to my channel, Start of Nothing Special (SONS). My name is David, and I am pleased to introduce you to this new platform created for men from all walks of life to come together and discuss their personal journeys.
Join me as I lay the groundwork for a platform that goes beyond being just a channel—it is a movement. Tune in as I articulate my vision and invite you to join us on this collective journey towards self-improvement. Through open dialogues and shared life lessons, we aim to build a community rooted in mutual growth and understanding.
Welcome to the beginning of something truly significant.
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Start of Nothing Special Podcast
Finding Freedom Beyond External Validation
Have you ever caught yourself measuring your worth by someone else's opinion? In our latest episode, we unravel the complexities of understanding self-worth and the liberation found in unlearning toxic habits. Join me as I share a personal journey of navigating past relationships, exposing the emotional rollercoaster of breakups, and the courage it takes to sit with our emotions rather than hastily moving on. As men, we often feel the societal push to suppress our feelings, but embracing vulnerability is a crucial step in healing past wounds, including those dating back to childhood. By learning to recognize our intrinsic value, we can break free from the chains of needing external validation and cultivate healthier connections in the future.
Our exploration doesn't stop there. We tackle the often-dreaded concept of failure, reframing it as a stepping stone rather than a stumbling block. Through my personal experiences of hitting rock bottom, I highlight the resilience that can be born out of our toughest times. This episode serves as a powerful reminder of the strength found in community and the transformative power of shared experiences. Let’s foster a space where we lift each other up, embracing our worth and inspiring one another to turn setbacks into opportunities for growth and success. Together, we are never alone, and within this brotherhood, we can find the courage to rise above challenges and thrive.
If you never try, you will never know
Relationships. Let's talk about relationships. What did your last relationship teach you? What did you learn from it? Now, for me personally, my last relationship taught me a lot of unhealthy things, a lot of things that I'm currently in the process of unlearning. My last relationship taught me that time spent with someone doesn't equate to quality. I've had deeper friendships, you know that, with people that I've met, you know, maybe six months. I've known for six months. That has been a more deeper relationship than someone that I had seven years with creating memories stories. Now, my last relationship taught me that someone can tell you what they think you're worth.
Speaker 1:My last relationship taught me that I'm not worth more. My last relationship taught me that I'm not worth more. I heard words like I don't like the way you chew, I don't like the way you walk into a room, I don't like the way you talk, I don't like the way you just who you are, I don't like this, I don't like that. And from someone that I knew for seven years and loved dearly, last relationship taught me that it doesn't matter. Seven years of knowing someone, seven years of a relationship, and this person now is in a relationship with someone that I know. What I know, I know what I know. My last relationship taught me that I should never allow my worth to be dictated to me by someone else To make it all meaningful.
Speaker 1:I've been in a relationship Trying to figure out what did I learn, and I do also pose that question to you guys. What did you learn? What have you learned from your last relationship? What did it give you? Because I'm standing here and I'm trying to Trying to unwrap, unpackage what I've learned, it's hard to look back in the past and look at it with fondness. You know I look at it with pain, trying to learn. I don't want this to turn into a depressive you know segment, but you know I just sort of you know, open up about it and talk about it. What did you learn from your last relationship, guys, as men, what have you learned In your last relationship? What happened in it that you, that is, left you scarred? Were you able to express yourself? Were you able to feel your emotions and go? You know, go through it and feel open to experience that without judgment? Were you able to go to your friends and they held you and told you to be okay, that you're okay to look back at it and take from it what you can and learn from it what you can. My last relationship it feels like a long time ago, but yet it feels like it was just. You know that I just came out of it Because I'm still Still dealing with the pain and the hurt.
Speaker 1:I feel like Everyone around me. They're in a rush to move on. Forget, you know, move on. That's always my reality. People are always quick. They're in a rush to move on. Forget, you know, move on. That's always my reality. People are always quick. They're in a rush to move on quickly. And I feel like sometimes I'm left behind because I sit there and I try to analyze, I try to think about, I try to feel everything, which isn't always necessarily a good thing, but it's just how I'm wired.
Speaker 1:If you're out there as a man and you're feeling alone or you're feeling like this relationship hurts you, it could even be your friendship, you know. It could be your relationship with your family. If that has left you scarred or with trauma or emotionally hurt, you are not alone. Please feel free to explore that emotion, feel free to feel it, feel free to be alone, feel free to yell, to scream, work through it. Don't hold it in. Don't hold it in and then use that in your next relationship to hurt someone else. Don't get cold. Don't hold it in and then use that in your next relationship to hurt someone else. Don't get cold. Don't get bitter. It does get better. Life does get better and you will learn from it.
Speaker 1:The older I get, the more I'm learning about my traumas and things like that, trying to. You know some things you think you've forgotten, but your brain doesn't forget the energies around you. You think something happens and you feel, you feel emotion. You feel something and you go oh, why did I feel that I'm 30 years old and I've only just now realized or figured out that I have an abandonment issue? 30 years old and I only just realized that and I had to go the lowest of low as a man would ever go. I begged someone to love me. I begged someone to stay around. I begged someone to see my value, my worth, twice in two separate relationships. They'll tell you, they'll be happy out there, telling everyone that I begged them to stay, that I have value, that I matter, because I didn't want to be left alone and I only connected the dots and went. Well, I got kidnapped when I was a kid. I went through that as a kid and that somehow has sort of stayed with me and developed into something else where I'm begging another human to love me and to see my worth. That's crazy, that's incredibly crazy.
Speaker 1:I think about it and I feel regret, I feel pain, I feel anger because I'm like. I know I'm an incredible person, I know I'm a great guy, I know I'm kind and loving, I know that my morals are sound and I'm better than anybody it got up against because I'm harder on myself than anyone will ever be on me. But I stood across the table, sat across the bed, sat on a phone call, begging to very toxic, emotionally unintelligent people and I'm still obviously hurt from it. That's why, you know, it's still affecting and I'm trying to learn to let go and I'm seeing help. I'm getting help to let it go but, as you can tell, it's still very fresh. You know a lot of anger and pain Because I sit there and I go.
Speaker 1:I know my value, I know my worth, but why did I sit there and beg two people that I had no business being with? Why did I beg two people that in their own individual life don't have? You know, I'm not even going to talk about that. But just why? Why? Individual life don't have? You know, I'm not even going to talk about that, but just why? Why did I beg another human to love me? And that's something that keeps me up at night and I try to justify, I try to make it make sense, just because I was kidnapped as a kid. That's left me with this feeling of abandonment, where anybody that wants to leave or tries to leave I hold on tight. They don't value you. It's a closed door and there's nothing behind it. But I'm begging, crying over a closed door that has nothing behind it. These two people are with people that you know that.
Speaker 1:The only thing that comes to my mind Is a quote that says A pig in a palace is still a pig. A pig in a palace is still a pig, doesn't matter how you look at it. Or what you're dressed up In a palace is still a pig, doesn't matter how you look at it, what you're dressed up in, it's still a pig. So I'm there with you, guys. I'm there with you.
Speaker 1:I've gone to my lowest points and I'm still standing. My greatest days will outshine my worst nights, because look at me, I'm standing here strong and I can only get better. You're not meant to be excited when you fail. You're not meant to fail. Everyone goes oh no, don't do that, because what if you fail? But I'm not afraid to fail. I love failing because I learn, I get better. So remember that, guys. Failure is a great thing. Learn from it. Grow it does get better. We are stronger than our worst days. You're not alone.
Speaker 1:I really want to hear from you, guys. So please, dm me. You know, just DM me. You know, or comment on this video. Tell me about your experience. What was the worst pain you had and how did you heal from it? What did you do? What did you learn from it? Please, I want to hear from you. We are stronger together, guys. I want to create a community where we can communicate and talk and express our feelings and our you know just a brotherhood. You are not alone, no matter what pain you're going through, whether you have a terrible relationship with your family, your father, your mom, your sister, you're valued, you're worth it and you're special. Don't isolate yourself. Remember there are people out there that want to see you succeed. I love each and every one of you guys. I love each and every one of you. You are strong, you have got this. You will succeed.
