Start of Nothing Special Podcast
Imagine a space where men can openly express their thoughts, share their experiences, and support one another. Envision candid discussions where vulnerability is considered a strength, and each shared story provides insight and encouragement to others.
Welcome to my channel, Start of Nothing Special (SONS). My name is David, and I am pleased to introduce you to this new platform created for men from all walks of life to come together and discuss their personal journeys.
Join me as I lay the groundwork for a platform that goes beyond being just a channel—it is a movement. Tune in as I articulate my vision and invite you to join us on this collective journey towards self-improvement. Through open dialogues and shared life lessons, we aim to build a community rooted in mutual growth and understanding.
Welcome to the beginning of something truly significant.
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Start of Nothing Special Podcast
Breaking Silence: Navigating Racism and Male Victimhood in Modern Australia
I share my personal struggle with racism and gender bias in the Australian justice system, highlighting how being a black man creates unique challenges when seeking protection from harassment.
• Attempted to get a restraining order against an ex who has been harassing me for two years despite having substantial evidence
• Faced discrimination as the police immediately implemented an order against me based on false allegations without requiring proof
• Being a black man means facing a justice system that inherently views you with suspicion
• Men who report being victims of harassment or bullying are often told to "turn the other cheek"
• Warning to other black men to be careful, document everything, and protect themselves
• Call for people to speak up against racism rather than standing by silently
• Despite these challenges, determined to maintain my values and not let these experiences change who I am
If you're experiencing similar situations, document everything and keep strong in your truth. Remember that your worth isn't determined by how others treat you.
If you never try, you will never know
Hi guys, there is two things today that I want to have a chat with, to you about. One of those things has a lot to do with the reason why I started this podcast, and the other is more to do with me and anyone with the same complexion as me. More specifically, um, you know, in the current climate, climate that we're in, um, you know it's, being a man is one thing and then being a black man is an entirely, uh, different thing, um, altogether. Um, this is more to relate. This is this has a lot more to do with me personally than a lot of you, I know. At the moment, my demographic is a lot of young, a lot of, I suppose, middle-aged, male.
Speaker 1:Now I am currently dealing with some issues that sort of prompted me to do this episode, just to sort of break it up and, I suppose, give you more of an understanding. I think it's not a new topic, it's not something that you're going to be surprised about. It's just for me it's silly to think that it's still very, very prevalent in this day and age. Now I've just come from court basically trying to issue, basically, you know, as a result of like a last resort I've tried every other way, nothing's worked. As a last resort, I've tried to issue a restraint order on someone an ex of mine because they've basically going online anonymously making false accusations about me, posting my pictures everywhere, telling everyone all these heinous and disgusting things. Now I have a five-year-old daughter and just to show you the sort of person this person is, they have no regard, no respect, they don't love themselves at all. So they are now doing things that I don't think a lot of women or men would do. So what I'm saying today is not to do with everybody. I'm more speaking to a very select few people. But this person, throughout the relationship, was a very, very toxic and evil person, and I stuck in there because I had a God complex. I thought I will fix them. I will change them. My influence will fix them, which I would like to reiterate. Guys do not do if someone is showing you who they are, leave them alone and move on with your life. Nothing you do will change them. They are. Leave them alone and move on with your life. Nothing you do will change them. They are who they are Now.
Speaker 1:I've been apart from this person for nearly two years now and I, unprovoked, have gone about my life doing my things and this person has gone and done everything in their power to pop up in my life. This person consistently comes into my workplace, very often very big energy. You know everyone, see me, everyone, look at me. So always in my workplace this person will come um, because where I work it's there's a mall outside and the person will come and there's lots of seating areas, but this person will come and sit directly in front of my shop front so to so as to be seen by me. Um, this person will go online, like I said before, and post some disgusting things about a man who has a daughter. No regard, no regard, no respect. Um, we say anything but they do it anonymously. So they anonymously sorry, so they can get away with it and say, oh, I didn't do it, sort of thing. That's the sort of person that they are make lies, whatever it it it takes, they will do it. Um, which is quite sad.
Speaker 1:Now I try to issue this restraint order and it has not gone through because one I'm a male and it's hard for a man to say this woman is harassing me both through social media, in person, in real life. They're coming into my workplace, harassing, making my environment very uncomfortable, but with all that, you know, it's very hard as a man to get restrained order, um, with all the evidence that I've provided of everything that this person's done. And then on the other end, I have another person where it's just like they and this has more to do. Again, a select few people and I have to be careful but a little select few people of the town that I live in, uh, the police system. There's a few in there that are quite racist.
Speaker 1:So obviously, me being a male one and also being a black male, someone made a false allegation and the police got involved straight away and put in a police order against me. Now that's very comical because I'm now trying to put I was, you know, I'm trying to put it on someone else and they need evidence, evidence, evidence, but with me, because one, I am a male and two, I am a black male, they were able to get involved. You know, police don't ever get involved. Anyone that knows. You know, police always say, oh, we can't really do much, we can't really do one, we can't really do much.
Speaker 1:Yet in this instance it was very quick to to get involved and put in this, this act, um, because, again, one, like I said, I'm a male and we are always the aggressor. And two, uh, I am a black male, so I have to be set an example of this message, not this. This is not meant to bring anyone down or anything like that. I suppose I'm just sort of saying you know, if you're a male, please be be careful, make sure you get consent for every single thing that you do, male or female, that should translate to whatever gender you identify, as always get consent, always make sure she's comfortable and always make sure the male's comfortable. And two, as my fellow black guys out there, be fucking careful. That person that you love, that person you trust, I'm dealing with all that. Now that I'm now someone that I had around my daughter, I had around my family, I got into my home. Both of these people I've got into my home. I am now fighting them that like they're my enemies, and I'm now dealing with um things to do with them.
Speaker 1:So, as a black male, I'm speaking to all the black guys out there please, please, please, take care of yourself. The way I am and the way I carry myself. I try to carry myself in a certain way. I don't mix with a certain group and yet I'm still suffering from this. You know what's going on. So it doesn't matter how you dress on the outside, it doesn't matter how you present who you say you are.
Speaker 1:If a white woman claims something of you, the police system is very quick to jump on that because, one, you're a male and two, yes, you are a black male. So all the black guys, please heed my warning and just be aware, be careful, keep evidence and just, yeah, look after yourself. I'm not saying hate on your women. I'm not saying hate on your women. I'm not saying hate on women. I'm just saying just be aware and be careful. Um, yeah, there's a lot to unpack there, but I just I come on here and just discuss my story and this is about it to open up.
Speaker 1:You know dealing with the courts trying to put an order on someone, because they have, like I said, on media social media and on um in person bullying me, harassing me, making false accusations, discrediting my character, going against my character, trying to assassinate my character, because they know that's very important to me, how I carry myself. And I've given all this evidence. I have abundance of evidence and I have people that have met me once or twice, that are around and are seeing what this person is constantly, consistently doing and they're telling me David, I've got this, this evidence for you, I've got people sending me evidence, showing me evidence, and I gave all that to the police but they were not happy or able to do that um, or do anything about it. Um, basically because, oh, we need more, we need you, we need to see you, half you know dead or I don't know, they're just not able to do it. And then, like I said, on the other hand, I have someone, a female, that just said, oh, I don't know, they're just not able to do it. And then, like I said, on the other hand, I have someone, a female, that just said, oh, I don't feel safe. And then, of course, like, oh, it's a black male, let's protect you and stuff. So she's definitely taking advantage of a very select few, very racist system. Because, again, I have some friends in the police force and they're not that I'm not general, I'm not saying all of you, I'm saying that the person that signed off on the order and the person that pushed it through, I am definitely talking at you saying, yeah, that was disgusting, because there is no evidence to say that suggest that I'm a man of violence. I'm a man of that sort of character. There is no evidence. No one you talk to will say, yeah, david is very violent or David is very aggressive. No one you talk to would believe that. So for that to be pushed to and put in place, um, one, I can't say the person's any you, but you are. You are taking advantage of racist system. And two, whoever signed in on it, you are a very, very racist person.
Speaker 1:And now and I don't understand that, look in the mirror and I go I don't understand how, basically, I'm more tanned than everyone you know. That's how I look at it. It's like, how is it I'm treated severely and so differently because I'm more tanned than everyone else? Like racism will never make sense to me. I just don't understand, and especially in the 24th century, I just do not understand how that is still a thing. You know how in soccer, players are getting bullied and making gestures of monkey impersonations and things like that. How, you know, people are getting refused things because of the colour of their skin.
Speaker 1:I will never understand and I don't think I want to understand, because obviously, if I understand it then I'm part of the issue, but I'm talking to everyone. You know, my friends, people that know me. Please don't. You know standing by is just as bad as doing it, you know. Please don't allow your colleagues know standing by is just as bad as as as as doing it. You know, please don't allow your colleagues or people that are in need like to to, to speak or act like this. It's not okay. We're all human. If you cut me, there's red blood coming out. Yes, my skin is dark, but again, we're all the same. We have the same beating heart, the same things.
Speaker 1:I don't understand racism. I will never fucking understand racism, but it's still happening. I'm not trying to make myself sound in any way, but look at me. If I'm suffering from racism right now, imagine the guy, that black guy that's got his pants hanging down his waist, wearing a hoodie and walking and stuff like that, how he would get profiled and things like that. I wear, you know, I dress appropriately and I present, you know, in a very, you know, well-dressed, formal way, and yet I'm dealing with this. So please, please, guys, do not allow this to keep going. Racism is real. It's still out there. It's still happening. My ex is taking full advantage of the racist system and the person that signed off on it is an absolute racist person. I cannot say their name because that would put me in more deep shit and I cannot afford to keep going being known in certain circles. I don't want the police to know about me, I don't want anyone to know. I just want to do my best and improve and get better and help guys and girls out there.
Speaker 1:It's interesting just to go back and it's interesting that society doesn't vibe with males being the victim, like it's such a complex topic and a complex thing. You know that society, a male comes and said, hey, this is I've been, you know this has happened to me. And society goes you're a man, you should be fine, deal with it. You know, going in front of a judge, going in front of people and saying, hey, I need help or I need you know, know this person is doing this. It still is not enough. Um, let's change that. Guys talk about it. That's why I'm talking openly about this, because I want I don't want the, the, the, the, that weirdness of it. I want it to be talked about. I want it to be normalized that guys and girls are all, are all can be victim of bullying, guys and girls, doesn't matter who you are.
Speaker 1:Just because I'm a man doesn't mean that, oh, I don't face it and I don't deal with it. I deal with bullying in my workplace. I work with a, with a, with a 30 something year old female that that that still lives at home with her, with her parents, has nothing going for herself but again, constantly, constantly attacks me and wants to make everyone feel as sad and miserable as she feels. So she'll come into work and single me out and attack me and make it her life's mission to make sure that I'm not comfortable or happy. Again, I've spoken to my workplace, I've spoken to leadership and nothing's been done because, hey, I'm a male. My workplace. I've spoken to leadership and nothing's been done because, hey, I'm a male, get over it.
Speaker 1:Turn the other cheek is what I'm told. A female complains about something, saying, oh, someone's making me uncomfortable. The employee the employers, you know does put things in place. A male says that they say, oh, turn the other cheek, turn the other cheek. That's what I've been hearing for a long time. When I've made complaints, when I've made my feelings annoying, it's just turn the other cheek, turn the other cheek. I think we need to support each other and do better and be better.
Speaker 1:Anyway, I don't want to keep rambling on, but I suppose the message is just guys, look out for each other. Black men, be careful. It's not as bad as it used to be, and certainly I mean Australia. It's different, not as bad as, say, the States where we're getting shot up. But, guys, just be careful, be aware, because, hey, this is still out there. It's still happening. There are people that are in your circle. There are people that are out there that genuinely just do not like you because of the complexion of your skin. It is still out there. I'm dealing with it in a small town called Launceston, tasmania. That's where I am and that's where I'm dealing with it. And, hey, I'll keep smiling and I'll keep working and they're not going to bring me down.
Speaker 1:There's so much going on in my life that I look at it and I want to get sad, I want to cry, I want to get angry, I want to scream, I want to yell, but I just take a deep breath and I look at the bigger picture and go. Not going to change me, not going to break me down. I am one of the strongest person I've ever met, and that's it. I love me and I will look after me. There's nothing wrong with me and I will keep working forward. I know who I am. I know my core values and my little girl knows me and sees how I love her and how I treat her. And the mother of my child knows how I love her and how I treat her. My friends that matter know how I am and how I treat them. The world will not change me. I will change the world. Thanks for tuning in.
